Not so long ago we had a conversation in the Mind over Fatter online group about weekend eating and the ability to eat in control. You know how we're able to be 'good' during the week and then, holey moley, the wheels come off and it all just falls apart during the weekends?? One of the most difficult parts of my Mind over Fatter journey for me 
was this whole 'eat in control' aspect. The diet industry had me thoroughly believing that I was 'in control' when I was 'good' (even if that meant following some or other -often ridiculous-diet) and 'out of control' when I was 'bad.'

But here's the problem - the underlying problem was that I was basing my judgement about what was good vs what was bad on a whole bunch of old ideas about food and eating - ideas that never really did serve me well. So, during the weeks, it was easy to be 'in routine' and hence 'in control' but in the weekends it was easy to be 'out of routine' and hence 'out of control.' (at least in my head). The biggies for me in this scenario were that I had to get out of the mindset that the weekends were any different when it came to eating than the weeks and central to this was the whole idea of being in control. I had this old subconscious Diet City conditioning that somehow made me think that I could 'relax' or 'reward' myself over the weekends because I'd been controlling or being good during the weeks.

So, you guessed it, along would come a weekend, and there I'd be stuffing my face, eating enough to feed a small army and down the drain went a whole weeks worth of 'goodness.' Followed by loads of self-hatred and promises to be extra good the next week which usually meant I landed up being even more out of control the next weekend.

What I had to learn was to undo the psychological hooks around weekends: just as I had to get to a point where eating carrots (psychologically) is equal to eating carrot cake, so I have to get to the point where eating-wise weekends were psychologically the same as week days.

In other words when I'm eating according to what my body needs rather than according to my old conditioned Diet City patterns, there IS no need for me to change my eating whether it's carrots or carrot cake, weeks or weekends because there is no good or bad, there's just eating according to my body which is when all the angst around food goes away. And in reality.... the only time I'm really in control around food and eating has nothing to do with my human judgement of whether I am good or bad or whether I judge my eating to be in control, but has everything to do with going with the flow of being body-wise. Then, it wasn't that I was being 'good' or 'being in control' - it was that I was just flowing with my body instead of fighting it and then I could easily follow these 10 steps to staying in control always.

To eat in control - go with the flow! With warm Mind over Fatter regards