Amongst the Papago people of Arizona there's a ritual called ‘The Pelting with flowers.’ The way it works is that all the participants gather around in circles and throw moistened flowers at each other. The message is that we are on earth to shower each other with beauty.

I’m a sucker for beautiful rituals. So, I love the idea of showering each other (and ourselves too) with the beauty of honesty, fairness, respect, trust and any other random acts of kindness and beautiful thoughts.

There’s nothing that can bring me feelings of gratitude faster than a feeling of pelting myself or others with ‘flowers’. How can you shower yourself with beauty today? Imagine you’re taking your shower – what if you envisaged each drop of water as ‘beauty’ just washing over you so that by the time you walked out the shower, you felt gorgeous and wonderful.

What if you imagined that each drop of water was a beautiful thought just infusing themselves into your cells one by one? How wonderful would that be?

Dieting is a very UNbeautiful ritual

QUESTION: "Cari, you read everywhere that diets don’t work. So we all know that. But if that’s the case why does every magazine (I mean they’re the ones telling us diets don’t work) advertise them?

Why are products that not only don’t work but are harmful for us not banned? I just don’t get it – there are just so many paradoxes about this whole dieting story it’s enough to make my head spin. What’s your take on it all?"

Well this question from Tammy really got me thinking (thanks Tammy). It just struck me so forcibly that dieting is a very un-beautiful ritual:
• They are unfair because they set you up to fail.
• They are dishonest because they don’t tell you they cause the very problems they supposedly solve.
• They don’t respect your inner wisdom and they don’t teach you how to trust yourself.

When I went to answer Tammy, as the words tumbled out of my fingers, I was quite amazed to realize that what I had written was a poem about the paradoxes of dieting. You can click here to read it ~ and please feel free to share it with others you think might enjoy it or find it thought-provoking.

Pelt yourself with beautiful information

Our new website ditch diets, live light (which I aim to make the most trustworthy sites for food, eating, exercising for adults, teens and children) is experiencing exponential growth rates.

I think people must feel pelted by flowers when they read it!

Not only has the traffic growth amazed me – but the number of people taking our interactive quizzes, or signing up for our free joy-filled body tips has been phenomenal.

And beautiful compliments about the website have come pelting in. Yay!

Personally really been surprised at how many people are taking our night time eating disorder quiz our nighttime eating quizz It’s by far our most utilized quiz, I never dreamed so many people would take it.

Because there has been such a demand for our joy-filled body tips, I’m also just about to launch another free e.course called: “Take one beautiful minute for myself”. It’ll be available some time before the end of March. This will be a fabulous way to pelt yourself with beauty.

There’s lots going on at Mind over Fatter – check out Cari's diary Our workshops, or even doing the Mind over Fatter programme are fabulous ways to shower yourself with ‘petals.’

Let's pelt our children with flowers

I think the thing I most notice as I do workshops is how many anxious/desperate parents there are out there. At every single event I talk at, what stands out for me is how many questions parents ask which reflect their fears around their children’s apparently imperfect bodies.

And just when I was sitting thinking about how best to help all these desperate parents (by writing my next book –Keeping your child out of food jail… oh man you want to see the research, it’s fascinating) someone in our online group posted this:

“What are we teaching the children? "Forget about honesty, integrity, kindness, love for yourself and your neighbour. As long as you are a size 0 you are perfect!!!!!! "That’s why I think Mind over Fatter will only grow from strength to strength. It’s addressing the root causes of the problem.”

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This made me realize how incredibly blessed I feel to have had anorexia and 20 years of desperate dieting. If I hadn’t I wouldn’t feel so passionate about showering myself and others with beauty nor would I be the guardian to the ditch diets, live light ideals that are having such a powerful transforming on our world.

And above all, personally, I’d rather die beautifully from outrageous joy and self kindness, laughing too much, living too fully or simply dancing the tango too wildly – wouldn’t you?

With love, light and beautiful flowers Cari

P.S. I love feedback on my newsletter and website - that's how I make them better


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