"Life is not about waiting for the storms to's about learning how to dance in the rain."

Developing SELF ESTEEM

A topic that regularly comes up in our Mind over Fatter forum is developing self esteem. And developing self esteem in our world can be like learning to dance in the rain.

The voice of our inner critic is really good at devastating our self confidence. I’m curious about how our harsh inner critic grows and develops because we aren't born with esteem problems. For much more on children and self esteem, watch out for my latest book: 'Mom, pass the broccoli' (It's a must read for any parents investing in protecting their children's self image).

But over time the opinions of others initiate and grow our inner critic. As I wrote recently: It' can be a constant struggle to accept ourselves not because there is anything wrong with us but because we are so barraged by a media that sets standards that make it difficult to accept ourselves. It's what creates the storm.

So, I've found it helpful at times to turn the tables around and rather 
than focussing on accepting myself, I've focussed on NOT accepting the images in the media. It’s proved to be a powerful way of developing self-esteem because if I don't accept the media images as 'the norm' I'm freed from trying to live up to them.

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To watch the media images and "to wish you were someone else is to waste the fabulous person you are. That's why I believe that challenging the so-called perfection of media images is a great plan when it comes to developing self-esteem.


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